¿ God Helps Those Who Help Themselves ?

¿ God Helps Those Who Help Themselves ?

Half-Truths - Part 4
(based on the book by Adam Hamilton)

July 27, 2025

Psalm 18:6, 16-17, Psalm 121:1-2, Philippians 2:12-14
see also: Daniel 9:15-19, Ephesians 2:4-10

However, God is rich in mercy. He brought us to life with Christ while we were dead as a result of those things that we did wrong. He did this because of the great love that he has for us. You are saved by God’s grace!

Ephesians 2:4-5

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“God helps those who help themselves.”

Odds are you have probably said or heard this exhortation at some point in your life. Most Americans believe it is found in the Bible, though no such Scripture exists. In truth, the source is unknown, although it is often attributed to Benjamin Franklin who popularized the phrase in the 1730’s.

At first glance, it seems to express good Biblical truth even if it is not directly quoted from Scripture. Surely God doesn’t want us to just sit back and do nothing. As James writes, “Faith without works is dead” (James 2:17). Likewise, Paul writes to the Philippians to “carry out (or work out) your salvation with fear and trembling” (Philippians 2:12-13)

Anyone working for social justice knows that one of the most important tasks is to help people stand on their own, to break the cycles of poverty, addiction, crime, or whatever else holds them back from being productive members of society who live with a sense of purpose and dignity. We “teach people to fish” rather than simply giving them an endless stream of free handouts.

Honestly, this is all good and true. We should encourage hard work and discipline both in life and in our journey of faith. We do have to “practice what we preach”. We must live out our salvation by fulfilling our baptismal covenant through our prayers, presence, gifts, service and witness. When we pray, God empowers us and guides us into action. Adam Hamilton writes, “Those who fought for civil writes did not simply pray at church. They prayed and then marched, knowing they were likely to be beaten and arrested and that God would somehow see them through.”

So what’s wrong with saying “God helps those who help themselves,” even if it’s not directly quoted from the Bible?

The trouble comes at two key points… when someone cannot help themselves, or when we cannot help ourselves.

We often see others in need and respond by saying that if they work hard and “help themselves,” God will help them out of whatever pit they find themselves in. In some ways, however, this says far more about our cultural work ethic and rugged individualism than it says about God. After all, if we could truly help ourselves, what need have we for God? Why pray at all if we could simply work harder and help ourselves solve whatever dilemma presses in?

More than that, it often becomes an excuse not to help others. Scripture consistently calls us to care for the poor, the orphan, the stranger, the widow, and the needy. In Matthew 25, Jesus tells us that whatever we have done for the least among us, we have done for him, and likewise whatever aid we have refused to others, we have refused for him. Rather than seeing those in need as people who should “pick themselves up by their own bootstraps”, we are called to see in them the face of Christ struggling under the weight of his own cross, and like Simon of Cyrene, perhaps God is calling us to help him carry it for awhile by bearing the burden of others (Matthew 27:32).

Challenging this well worn cliché is not a blanket affirmation of sloth or laziness. Rather it is a recognition that no matter how hard we work, there are times when we simply cannot help ourselves. Despite popular belief, not everyone was born with the same opportunities, abilities or connections. This is why God uses others to answer the cry of the needy, to help them when they don’t have a leg to stand on.

In the end, God helps those who CANNOT help themselves.

God is the God of the hopeless, the God who walks with us even in the valley of the shadow of death. This is grace, amazing grace, that saved even a blind wretch like me who could never save myself from the shackles of sin. When it comes to our salvation, not one of us can help ourselves.

Rather than condemning the helpless, perhaps it would do us well to sing that great hymn again… remembering that we were all lost and helpless, but God rescued us from the pit that we might sing His glorious and “Amazing Grace” all the more.

The Gift of Submission

Submit to One Another

It’s Complicated: Family as a Means of Grace - Part 4
May 25, 2025
Ephesians 5:20-6:4

Always give thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; and submit to each other out of respect for Christ. 

Ephesians 5:20-21

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Paul’s instructions for Christian households can be a hornet’s nest for bad interpretation and abuse.

In the evangelical church where I spent my teenage years, I often heard Ephesians 5:22 and 6:1 quoted — “Wives submit to your husbands” and “Children, obey your parents.” What’s ironic is how rarely we heard verses like 5:25 or 6:4 — “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church” and “Parents, don’t provoke your children to anger.” And even less proclaimed were the verses that introduce the entire section: “Submit to each other out of respect for Christ.”

That mutual submission sets the tone for everything that follows. Yet historically, many faith communities have twisted these verses to uphold hierarchies of control — where men dominate, women disappear into the background, and children are to be seen but not heard.

In Jesus and John Wayne, historian Kristin Kobes DuMez describes the cultural fascination with domineering, militant masculinity.  Like John Wayne, they are men who “sit tall in the saddle, who are not afraid to resort to violence to bring order, and who won’t let political correctness get in the way of saying what has to be said or the norms of democratic society keep them from doing what needs to be done.” 

Such “alpha-males” don’t show weakness, they “protect” with power, and they rarely make room for those who don’t fit the mold. One man with a physical disability said he felt there was no place for him in  evangelicalism because he wasn’t a “sports or hunting fanatic.” I’ve felt that too. At one church I served, the men told me they couldn’t respect me because I didn’t own a gun. Apparently, not owning one meant I wasn’t a “biblical man” because in their words, I “was refusing to protect my family.”

The sad irony is that many churches preach these roles as biblical while ignoring the harm they can cause. I've seen men praised for “leading” while acting more like bullies. I've watched women, outwardly submissive, quietly manipulate and control everything behind the scenes in a dynamic that only pretends to honor Scripture. And far too often, these façades have hidden emotional manipulation, spiritual neglect, and even abuse.

Children grow up believing they are either invisible or inherently flawed, because their needs and voices are rarely valued.  When I was a youth pastor, I had two 6th grade girls ask me, “If you had kids, would you talk to them?”  Their pain was deeply felt as most of the adults in their lives completely ignored their existence.

When our family systems are built on control instead of Christlike love, everyone loses.

So what if we stopped asking who’s in charge and started asking who needs to be seen, heard, and loved?

To follow Christ is to dismantle power plays and choose the harder way: honoring one another as beloved members of God’s family. This is the kind of household is bound together by grace, where mutual love and surrendering our will and desires to the needs of one another builds something truly holy.

The Bond of the Wild Goose

The Wild Goose
The Way of the Wild Goose - Part 4
June 9, 2024
Ephesians 4:1-6, 1 Thessalonians 5:11, Hebrews 10:24-25, John 15:1—17

Therefore, as a prisoner for the Lord, I encourage you to live as people worthy of the call you received from God. Conduct yourselves with all humility, gentleness, and patience. Accept each other with love, and make an effort to preserve the unity of the Spirit with the peace that ties you together.  You are one body and one spirit, just as God also called you in one hope.  There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism,  and one God and Father of all, who is over all, through all, and in all.

 Ephesians 4:1-6 (CEB)

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The fundamental human need for relationship and community reflects the love which flows from the very God whose image we bear.  Here again, the image of the Wild Goose might have something to teach us about the Holy Spirit’s role in our lives and in our world.  Wild geese model a communal life of mutual support.   They honk in flight to encourage one another.   They fly in a V-shape and rotate the lead position so that when one bird grows tired it can move toward the back, allowing another to take the point position.  If one becomes too weak to keep up with the flock and falls out of formation, at least two others will land with it and remain by its side until it is able to fly again. 

Many people struggle to “fit in.”  “Fitting in” requires that we fundamentally change, or at least conceal part of ourselves to look or think like those around us for the sake of conforming to the group.  Underneath is the constant anxiety that we might be found out.  Especially in church, we worry what people will think if they find out we don’t share all the same beliefs, or if we have different political views, or if we struggle with doubt in our faith.  When we feel weak, are there people who will land with us and sit by our side, or do we feel like we just need to keep flying so that nobody will find out that we are not as strong as they think we are? 

Perhaps the Spirit invites us to something more.  What if the community of the Holy Spirit is not about fitting in at all, but about genuine belonging?  John O’Donohue puts it this way:

We have fallen out of belonging… The commercial edge of so-called 'progress,' has cut away a huge region of human tissue and webbing that held us in communion with one another. 

What if belonging, like the belonging in a flock of geese, comes from simply being there?  What if we allowed ourselves to be vulnerable enough to show up and to be present with and for one another with no judgment or expectation?  This kind of unconditional acceptance, belonging, and love is the primary mark of one who calls themselves a follower of Christ. 

As those who seek to follow Christ’s example, we cannot pick and choose who we will love based on preference, affection, similar interests, or agreement of opinions.  We must love as Christ loved us.  We must be vulnerable, serve one another, and open our hearts to the stranger. As a popular benediction from the United Methodist Hymnal declares,

Go now in peace to serve God and your neighbor in all that you do. Bear witness to the love of God in this world, so that those to whom love is a stranger will find in you generous friends.

~ The United Methodist Hymnal: Book of United Methodist Worship, 7. print
(Nashville, Tenn: United Methodist Publ. House, 1998), 869.

~ excerpts from The Wild Goose: Embracing the Untambed Beauty of the Holy Spirit